With each Lent I try something new to aid in spiritual growth. There have been a variety of sacrifices and devotions, from additional readings to social media self-control. There have been days for prayer, and vows to update this blog more frequently (both were partially successful). But there was always one tenant of Lent that didn’t get as much focus: almsgiving.

Along with prayer and fasting, almsgiving is one of the three pillars that makes Lent what it is. It’s also the most visible. Prayer and fasting can be done on your own, without a pressing need to involve the outside world. But almsgiving is the outside world, the offering of yourself to others.

I once participated in a “donation a day,” which I plan to do again this year. Each day, look around the house and find one item to donate to charity. At first, it had a dual purpose: give to others, but also clean out the closet! But the latter (more selfish) reason quickly fell by the wayside. As Lent progressed, it became more difficult to find that one item each day. It forced me to think about what we really need. That sweater I haven’t worn in three years: why do I still have it? Or do I fear getting rid of it because it was a gift?

Almsgiving is not only donating physical things or money, but also other acts of charity. It’s seemingly simple acts like holding the door for someone, or offering to help a stranger. Reach out to them, rather than waiting to be asked. Be aware of the world around you, and be empathetic to other’s needs. We spend so much time in our own heads, especially those (like myself) who spend a lot of time alone or work from home. Smile at the cashier when going to the store, or wave to a neighbor when they drive past. Small things make a difference, too.

I was never a big fan of “giving something up,” but on top of everything else, I’ll finally do that, too: no sweets until Easter. With Ash Wednesday falling on Valentine’s Day this year, this is a double sacrifice. Especially when you consider all those post-Valentine’s candy sales.